This past week I saw a new “word” floating all over the Internet — “Twerking,” which was trending all over social media since Miley Cyrus’ performance on the MTV VMAs. I will admit that I have not and will not be watching the video — to me this is qualified as TMI (Too Much Information). I did look up the word “Twerking,” out of curiosity. According to the Oxford Dictionary Online it’s a dance move that involves a person, usually a woman, shaking her hips in an up-and-down bouncing motion, causing the dancer to shake, “wobble” and “jiggle.” Wikipedia says to twerk is “to dance to popular music in a sexually provocative manner involving thrusting hip movements and a low, squatting stance.” After reading that explanation, I can guarantee my dance moves DO NOT contain “Twerking” and if they did, I’m quite sure I would pull a muscle!
So when is it too much? When as a society will we throw our hands up in the air and say, “Enough is enough?” I am not a prude, but if I want to see someone struttin’ their sexuality across the stage, I will go to a rock concert or an R-rated movie with my friends — not my children. I am not a fan of the “in your face behavior” that is seen everywhere — somewhere and somehow there needs to be respect for oneself and others.
A few weeks ago, a friend decided to share some boudoir photos of herself on her website, she is a writer. Her purpose of sharing the photos and writing the corresponding article were to prove to herself and others that beauty comes in all shapes and sizes.
She is the mother of triplets, 5 feet, 6 inches tall, 190 pounds. She doesn’t have ripped abs, she likes to eat cupcakes when she’s stressed and her husband loves her. The photos were beautiful, the article well written, but I felt like an intruder into her bedroom. It made me uncomfortable by her sharing such private photos.
In this time of instantaneous information, when is it TMI? Do we REALLY need to know all of the dirty details of someone’s life? Do we need a peek in their bedrooms or should some things still remain private? I am for privacy; I wish we as a society would put up our hands and shout enough is enough, until people started keeping their private lives private.
I’m one that doesn’t need to keep up with the Kardashians, hang out at the Jersey Shore or watch “The Real World.” In my opinion, the sense of mystery is lost when every detail of a person’s life is out in the open. So maybe the entertainment industry, including entertainment journalist, should try keeping a few things out of the public eye — might be a nice change of pace. Meanwhile, I’ll watch my regular, made-for-TV shows and hope that there will never be a show called “The Real Housewives of Ahwatukee.”
• Leah Derewicz is a 15-year Ahwatukee Foothills resident. Reach her at firstname.lastname@example.org.