A powerful king, ruler of many domains, was in a position of such magnificence that wise men were his mere employees. And yet one day he felt himself confused and called the sages to him. He said: "I do not know the cause, but something impels me to seek a certain ring, one that will enable me to stabilize my state. I must have such a ring. And this ring must be one which, when I am unhappy, will make me joyful. At the same time, if I am happy and look upon it, I must be made sad."
The wise men consulted one another and threw themselves into deep contemplation. Finally they came to a decision as to the character of this ring, which would suit their king. The ring they devised was one upon which was inscribed the legend: "This, too, shall pass."
I just love this folk tale as it makes me think about the power of neutrality. It is easy to get swayed by the ups and downs of life, but if we can walk the middle ground, there is a steadiness that we experience that is powerful in its own way.
I also enjoyed sharing this folk-tale as it makes me think of the objective listening skills necessary of a good mentor or coach. The mentors must be discerning, warm and kind, and disciplined enough to not jump to rash decisions or recommendations when listening to a client. I feel this is a valuable asset as a coach as I find that sometimes people want answers fast, and yet, I must remember that the full story must be taken into account so that I may best understand why someone is going through a certain health journey and process.
The story of the ring helps all of us to remember to be an observer and that sometimes the experience, which seems to grab our attention, may gently shift and pass. We feel that at times it takes the right facilitator to listen, ask specific questions and be able to be a positive force for healing and upliftment. Just when it seems as though one door closes, another opens and new found health and awareness emerges.
Dr. Jason Kolber is a licensed doctor of chiropractic and a certified life coach. He can be contacted at (480) 704-2787 or www.livinginline.com.