Getting along with the opposite sex and strengthening relationships is easier when people understand and celebrate differences, according to a new book by local resident, Jennifer Miller.

Miller has been a licensed professional counselor for more than 10 years with over eight years as a marriage and family pastor. Those years of counseling and teaching people has resulted in her noticing a few trends.

“It didn’t matter if they were dating, married, had been dating a short time or a long time, had a strong marriage or a struggling marriage, people had a lot of the same kind of issues,” she said. “I found that the gender gap continues to be something people struggle with. What I have perceived in the pendulum is always swinging… We’ve gotten to a place where nobody understands anybody.”

Miller said what she sees over and over is that there are differences between men and women, and often those differences are confusing. What she tries to do in her new book, “No Longer Two: A Guide to How God Created Men, Women and Marriage” is explain the differences in the brain and use the Bible and her own experiences to show why those differences are and how understanding them can help relationships flourish.

“Our potential is equal, but that doesn’t make us the same,” she said. “I think this book really celebrates those differences and honors those differences… We were made different on purpose for a purpose. We compliment each other.”

The book isn’t just for married couples. The insights offered are useful for anyone in any kind of relationship.

“A lot of educators on marriage and relationships will talk about the differences so we can understand one another but she takes it even further than that by saying, ‘Here are our differences, now what do we do with them? How do we take those and make a unit that works really well together,’” said Dawn Neitzel, a single woman who has read the books and attended Miller’s classes in the past. “What I liked in this book is it allows you to see what a relationship should be before you get involved and develop some bad habits. You can understand the give and take and how his weaknesses will depend on you and how your weaknesses depend on him, and how you can work together.”

Miller is hosting a workshop, called “Learn How to Not Suck at Relationships,” at 6:30 p.m. this Thursday, April 3, at the Center For Living Well, 1655 W. Chandler Blvd., Suite 5. The cost is $10 for individuals or $15 per couple. To register or find more details, visit

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