Have you ever been in a situation where you wanted to make a good impression on someone?

Whether it was a job interview, a first date, or even being a new student at a new school? Were you ever so nervous that you ended up not really being yourself at all and acted completely out of character instead?

I think that everyone experiences this from time to time. We get wrapped up in the fact of trying to impress someone else that we totally lose sight of just being ourselves. Of course first impressions are important, but if losing sight of who we really are happens in the process, then aren’t we being misleading instead?

Wouldn’t it be better to be real and be yourself than be misleading just to try and impress someone?

When we are not ourselves towards other people we are being misleading. If you think about it, eventually your true self will come out in the open later. You can pretend to be someone else all you want but eventually it will catch up to you and yourself will come out whether you even realize it or not.

Then there are the other times where we are afraid to be ourselves because we feel like others won’t like who we are. We feel like if we act like ourselves we won’t be accepted because we see ourselves as not being good enough in other people’s eyes.

However, who are we to say how other people see us? Why do we care how other people see us?

The only person that has a right to judge us is ourselves. It shouldn’t matter what other people think about us, because that is something that we have no control over. Why stress out over things we cannot control?

The best person in life that you could ever be, is yourself. That is the one impression that everyone will always remember, because every time they see you, you are always comfortable being who you are. People are going to be more impressed if you are yourself, than if you are just trying to be someone that you are not.

Don’t be afraid to be yourself and never lose sight of who you really are, whether if it’s at a job interview, a first date, or being a new student at a new school. People want to remember you for who you are and not who you are pretending to be.


Ahwatukee Foothills resident Michelle “Mikey” Arana is a 2003 graduate of Mountain Pointe High School. She offers free peer advice, however, Mikey is not licensed or trained, just a fellow friend to the community. All inquiries made to Mikey will remain anonymous unless legal issues occur. She can be reached at www.myaskmikey.com or myaskmikey@yahoo.com.

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