It is a shame that there are people out there that judge other people, however we all know everyone does it. We ourselves are most likely guilty of doing it as well, even if we may not realize when we are actually doing it. It is just sad how people judge others based on how much money they make, or the assets they own, or even the car they drive. What happened to the saying of what really counts is what is on the inside?

It is a sure realization that we all need to make money, and we have to budget our lifestyle according to how much money we make. Some make more money than others and tend to live their life differently and like to have new cars, expensive houses, etc. While there are others out there that may make a lot of money, but don’t really like to spend it. Then there’s the third category of those who make very little money and have no choice on how to live their life. There is nothing wrong with any of these. What’s wrong, is how people are treating others who have a different pay scale.

To throw out an example would be a boyfriend and a girlfriend who have been dating for quite some time now. Due to the economy, the girlfriend got laid off. It was not anyone’s fault; she didn’t do anything wrong – it’s just the economy. She is a great girlfriend, a kind and good person, and someone that he can see settling down with. They have a great relationship. What’s noticeable in this case, is instead of the boyfriend being humane and comforting and supporting the girlfriend while she desperately looks for another job, the boyfriend decides to dump her. He decides to throw everything away for the sake of dollar signs – something that is a temporary problem and can be fixed. He immediately replaces the girlfriend with another girl who has a job and carries on with his life.

Hold on a second – yes everyone is fighting for survival, but if you love someone, isn’t it worth trying to push through the struggles with them? The struggles won’t be there forever, as everyone knows that money comes and goes. But giving up on others or treating them different or less of a person because they don’t have a job is immoral. That is just as bad as treating someone different because they are sick or have a disease.

It should not matter how much a person has financially, in order to treat them like a whole person or to be in a relationship with them. Yes, it makes it easy on both parties if both people are working when it comes to living together, having roommates, etc. But it certainly doesn’t make it easier on the person who is struggling to have the other person just give up on them. They are already probably feeling pretty low, and for someone they care about to just leave them behind makes the situation feel even worse for them.

In other words, we have forgotten to love our neighbors for who they are and, instead, have judged them based on their bank account balance instead of their character. Real love, real friendship, real people stick by people even when times are hard. Chances are if you have a good relationship going, it is going to last longer than the economy crisis will. Why mess it up? You have something that may last forever, don’t mess it up by letting an obstacle ruin something great when it is only temporary.

A bank account does not determine a person’s real self worth. You cannot put a price tag on a person’s self worth. Self worth comes from within, and you could have all of the money in the world, but not be a good person and, as a result, not be worth anything to anybody. On the flip side, you can be the brokest person out there and be worth more than a dollar value to everyone’s life that you have touched and have come across with in your life.

What is more important to you?


Ahwatukee Foothills resident Michelle “Mikey” Arana is a 2003 graduate of Mountain Pointe High School. She offers free peer advice, however, Mikey is not licensed or trained, just a fellow friend to the community. All inquiries made to Mikey will remain anonymous unless legal issues occur. She can be reached at or

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