One of my all-time favorite movies is “The Princess Bride.” “As you wish” is something our hero, Wesley, says to his beloved Buttercup throughout the story. He wants to do everything in his power to make her wishes come true.
That’s a lovely story, but in reality, wishes don’t come true just because we wish them.
How often do you say, “I wish…”? I wish I had whiter teeth, I wish I could lose weight, I wish my marriage was better, I wish I had a better job, I wish I was making a difference for Christ...
“I wish” may be simply an expression, but at the core, it reveals a longing of your heart.
I want to challenge you (as I’ve recently challenged myself) to delete “I wish” from your spoken and thought vocabulary.
Wishing doesn’t change anything. Change requires intention and action. So first identify what you find yourself wishing (longing, dreaming) for, then begin to devise a plan to make some progress.
Here’s a suggestion of how to transform wishing (fantasy) into reality:
• Think of three little changes or steps you could take in a purposeful direction toward your goal.
• Commit to doing these things in writing. Maybe even make it a prayer request to partner with God. It’s hard to make changes or progress without a little divine intervention!
• Recruit an accountability/prayer partner to keep you honest, encourage you and pray for you.
• After you’ve been successful and consistent with these little steps for a month or so, come up with three more and repeat the process. Pretty soon you’ll be a little (or a lot) closer to realizing your wish.
Wishing is a waste of time and energy. It also focuses on what we lack rather than what we already possess. Unfulfilled longing breeds discontentment, which robs us of our peace and joy.
If you aren’t willing to make changes, consider targeting your energy on contentment with your current status. Sometimes what we have is enough.
When our first desire is to love God and love others, all our wishes will likely come true. Love never fails.
“May He grant you your heart’s desire and fulfill all your plans!” Psalm 20:4
• Ahwatukee Foothills resident Diane Markins can be reached at Diane@DianeMarkins.com. See more of her writing at www.DianeMarkins.com or connect on Facebook/WomeninHighDef.com. Her new book “Women in High Def: Boldly Living Your Purposes with Vibrant Clarity” can be found on either site.