I got in a fight with my mother last year and I have not talked to her since. At the time I thought it was her fault. I didn’t call her on Christmas, her birthday, or even Mother’s Day last year because of our fight. I have had a lot of time to think about everything this past year, and now looking back I realize that the fight was not her fault, and that all in all she was just trying to be a good mother by looking out for me.
I have wanted to pick up the phone to call her for a few months now, but I have been too afraid to. I am not sure if she will want to talk to me or if she will even forgive me. Each day that goes by gets harder and harder for me to have the courage to make the first move. I am afraid my window will expire to try and ask for forgiveness.
What should I do?
- Seeking Forgiveness from My Mother
Dear Seeking Forgiveness from My Mother,
I am sorry to hear that you had a huge fight with your mother that caused a loss in communication between you two. It sounds like you have been struggling with this for a long time now. Yet, don’t you think it is possible that she has been struggling with it, too?
Life is short, and the longer the both of you spend without talking to each other the more it is not going to solve your problems. If you realize that you were in the wrong during your fight why not tell her that? Either way, surely you both have a lot you would like to say to each other as this has been going on long enough.
A bond between a mother and her child can never be broken. Things may happen along the way where it may have damaged the tie between mother and child, but it is never anything that cannot be worked out. Even when a mother is no longer physically on this earth, her bond with her children never dies.
Don’t wait for it to be too late. There is nothing that cannot be worked out between a mother and her child.
• Ahwatukee Foothills resident Michelle “Mikey” Arana is a 2003 graduate of Mountain Pointe High School. She offers free peer advice, however, Mikey is not licensed or trained, just a fellow friend to the community. All inquiries made to Mikey will remain anonymous unless legal issues occur. She can be reached at firstname.lastname@example.org.