Everyday we are faced with obvious things that we put on our priority list. For example, going grocery shopping, going to work, doing laundry, a dentist appointment, going to the gym and so on. At the end of the day, we figure out that for the most part we did everything that was on our "To Do" list when we realize that we forgot about a few things, like calling our friend post interview to see how it went because the night before you talked with them and they were so nervous. What about attending your nephew's soccer game, where you promised that you would be standing on the sidelines cheering him on? Or even just saying "I love you" to your spouse before you both started your day that morning? Why do we forget the things that should be more important than those that we actually remember?
It is so easy to remember the things we feel like we have to do, such as the errands, appointments or the commitments that we feel like we cannot live without keeping. We remember them the most because they are the most obvious, the everyday ones, and that is what we focus our attention on day in and day out. However, by doing that, we have trained our minds to just follow our repetitive patterns and hardly introduce any new things to focus on.
When did we start focusing on the things that were the most obvious and convenient and forgetting about the more important things that affect the people that we love the most?
No one has the right to look at your life and tell you that the things you spend the most time on are just the obvious and unimportant ones, or even the right and significant ones that will matter the most in the end, except for you. You have to be the one that decides for yourself if doing your laundry at 5 p.m. was more important than cheering on your nephew on the sidelines for his soccer game. Or if your 7 p.m. date with The Bachelor was more important than calling your friend for support post job interview. Or even if your date with the gym had to be scheduled before you got to see your husband and tell him that you loved him this morning.
You have to see, feel in your heart, and just know what will matter the most in the end. Do you really think that your nephew will look back one day and say, "Well, my Aunt couldn't attend my soccer game that day, but man could she fold a mean load of clothes." Or will your husband really say, "Well, she didn't have time to say ‘I love you' to me because she had to go to the gym right away," or even "My friend never called me to comfort me post interview, but she was very knowledgeable about what was happening on The Bachelor."
What are you spending your time on? Things that matter the most in the end, or things that just temporarily matter? Think about it.
Ahwatukee Foothills resident Michelle "Mikey" Arana is a 2003 graduate of Mountain Pointe High School. She offers free peer advice; however, Mikey is not licensed or trained, just a fellow friend to the community. All inquiries made to Mikey will remain anonymous unless legal issues occur. She can be reached at www.myaskmikey.com or firstname.lastname@example.org.